“Which leads us to the first reason why “way of being” is so important: when our hearts are at war, we can’t see clearly.”
– from The Anatomy of Peace; Resolving The Heart of Conflict from The Arbinger Institute
So, I bought the book about six months ago, but just started it on the plane yesterday. I’m about halfway through, realizing that I just lost six months of being a better parent, spouse, executive, negotiator. Dang it!
If you’ve don’t have any simmering conflict with a teenage child, a spouse, an employee, a boss, a neighbor or an adversary, congratulations. You’re delusional at best, or a robot at worst. If you do (and trust me on this one, I ain’t judging! My list runs longer than I wish it did…), this book will be life enhancing by page 35, and potentially life changing by the time we finish it.
Netted out, and thus the obscure reference to the cheesy Barbara Streisand song in the headline, when we fail to look at other people first as people, we betray ourselves. You read that correctly. We betray ourselves. Yes, after all these years of making fun of that song — turns out it’s true. People who need people are the luckiest people…………………….in the world. (THAT was difficult to type, no matter how true it is…!)
There may be another post or two on the topic as I finish the book, but, just in case, here’s a link to buy it…
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