“Admitting I was hurt was the only thing that freed me from the pain.”
– Paige Rawl, author of Positive, as quoted in this months’ “Reader’s Digest”
Ms. Rawl has become one of the leading authorities on the subject of bullying and a leader of the anti-bullying movement, but this post isn’t about bullying.
It’s about the difference between ignoring and pretending.
Pretending someone didn’t hurt you is much, much different than ignoring the hurt. In the former case, a cocoon of fallacy is built around us and in the latter, an acknowledgement of the wrong is noted.
It might seem small and almost insignificant, but it is, in fact, what will free us from the pain.
Someone has wronged us, somewhere along the line. And someone might try to do it again today. So, we live, we learn and we move on. We’re more likely to move on free from the pain when we acknowledge the wrong and the hurt associated with it, but ignore the inflictors, doubters and wannabes that prop themselves up by trying to bring a difference maker down.
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