Forgiveness v. Cancel Culture — The First Stone


“It isn’t hate to speak the truth.”

–  J.K. Rowling (b. 1965), author of the Harry Potter book series

I wonder if she had a microphone.  I wonder if she dropped it.

It’s not hate to speak the truth.  It’s not hate to make an honest mistake.

Wanna know what’s hateful?

To not forgive.

First, it’s the fundamental element of our Faith, for those of us who have it.

Second, it’s the fundamental element of trusting and long-term relationships, whether we have Faith or not.

My dad said things in the 1960s that would not be ok today.  Maybe they weren’t ok back then.  But my dad would also have given the shirt off his back for anyone in need.  Which thing defines Dick Heston?  That thing he said, or that life he lived?  I’m taking the latter.  If you’re taking the former, you.  Don’t.  Get.  It!

Abraham Lincoln, one could argue did as much for one group of human beings in America as anyone ever could have.  But we’re going to take his name off schools?  Name me one legendary person — JFK, FDR, Winston Churchill — the list could go on and on and on…that doesn’t have dark pages in their story.  Read deeply into any of their backgrounds and something unseemly can be dug up.

It reminds me of a man empowered with casting judgment on a woman convicted of a cancellable offense.  You may remember the story…

John 8:7 — “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone…”  That was an admonishment followed by a bunch of idiots dropping their rocks and going home.  Forgiveness is much more powerful than canceling.  Dang near anything you can dream up is more powerful than canceling.  It takes no intelligence, forethought or fortitude to cancel.  It takes character to forgive.  On our tombstone, do we want to be known as a hater or a forgiver?

For those of you canceling — wake up, shut up and grow up.

For some of you being canceled — hang in there.  That video, that voice mail, that note — none of those define who you are.  No one moment defines who anyone is.

Forgiveness is the fundamental element of whatever comes next.

And whatever we do next is all a difference-maker can control.







  1. Tom Kennedy says

    Hess, this has to be one of the best Differences you have ever posted. Thank you

  2. Steve, this a so well done and has extra meaning for the Tone’s.

  3. Rob Phipps says

    Maybe the best post I’ve read in a long time. Thanks Steve!

  4. Jan Hickenbottom says

    Well done, Steve.

  5. Chris Pavik says

    People need to understand this. Nicely said. Thanks, Steve.


  1. […] This post is ostensibly about “signs.”  It is not a commentary on people’s intelligence** — although I’m not afraid to risk being canceled. […]

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